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A complete file about benefits of marriage (2)

What should we understand from this study?

Allah Almighty tells us to that we have to reflect by saying: (Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.){ Sûrat Ar-Rûm - The Romans -verse21}.

Hence, from previous study we should believe that marriage is a human nature and any other kind of relations despite marriage is totally wrong and not fruitful.

Marriage was created since the first day of creation as Allah Almighty says: (And We said: "O Adam! Dwell you and your wife in the Paradise and eat both of you freely with pleasure and delight){Sûrat Al-Baqarah- The Cow –verse35}, here we find that Allah Almighty told Adam to dwell in paradise not with his girlfriend or with his boyfriend or even alone but He Almighty told him to be with his wife.

Glory to Allah!!!!!!!

Mechanism of Pleasure and delight between wife and husband

Sociologists and scientists confirm that existence of a wife with a husband is considered to be a dampening factor to reduce frustration and stress around husband and also they confirm that married man is more creative than unmarried.

As two University of Kansas researchers are studying why women who choose careers in science, technology, engineering and mathematics advance as young professors, scientists or educators but then disappear from the profession.

Karen Multon, professor and chair of the Department of Psychology and Research in Education in KU's School of Education, and Barbara Kerr, Distinguished Professor of Counseling Psychology, are researching how a woman's relationship with a significant other may impact her career choices

"It's not just your boyfriend or husband, it's also family concerns and how you're going to handle all of that at once, in a field that is so demanding," said Multon.

Kerr points out that married male scientists are found to be the most productive scientists, followed by single male scientists. Single women come in at third-most productive, followed by married female scientists.

"So marriage is a benefit to male scientists but not to female scientists," Kerr said.

Consequences of violating Allah’s nature

Scientists, community leaders, and policymakers across the world are admitting that strong marriages are the key to improving social and personal well-being. Increasingly, research is showing that children in married families are healthier, perform better in school, live in poverty less frequently, and are involved in crime or other destructive behaviors less often. But as marriages fail, social problems and social spending to deal with those problems increase.

Let us make a tour to find out what is happening as a consequence of being away from marriage and the consequence of the broken relation between spouses:

1. European figures

According to the council of Europe website the latest figures for prevalence of violence against women suggests that one-fifth to one-quarter of all women have experienced physical violence at least once during their adult lives, and more than one-tenth have suffered sexual violence involving the use of force. Secondary data analysis supports an estimate that about 12% to 15% of all women have been in a relationship of domestic abuse after the age of 16.

Many more continue to suffer physical and sexual violence from former partners even after the break-up.

2. American figures

The American figures about violence Against Women are terrifying as the following:

In 2005, of all the women murdered in the U.S., about one-third were killed by an intimate partner.

According to the National Center for Injury Prevention and *******, women experience about 4.8 million intimate partner-related physical assaults and rapes every year. Less than 20 percent of battered women sought medical treatment following an injury.

According to the National Crime Victimization Survey, which includes crimes that were not reported to the police, 232,960 women in the U.S. were raped or sexually assaulted in 2006. That's more than 600 women every day. A significant number of crimes are never even reported for reasons that include the victim's feeling that nothing can or will be done and the personal nature of the incident.

Young women, low-income women and some minorities are disproportionately victims of domestic violence and rape. Women ages 20-24 are at greatest risk of nonfatal domestic violence, and women age 24 and under suffer from the highest rates of rape. The Justice Department estimates that one in five women will experience rape or attempted rape during their college years, and that less than five percent of these rapes will be reported.

According to the Family Violence Prevention Fund, "growing up in a violent home may be a terrifying and traumatic experience that can affect every aspect of a child's life, growth and development. . . . Children who have been exposed to family violence suffer symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, such as bed-wetting or nightmares, and were at greater risk than their peers of having allergies, asthma, gastrointestinal problems, headaches and flu." In addition, women who experience physical abuse as children are at a greater risk of victimization as adults, and men have a far greater (more than double) likelihood of perpetrating abuse.

The Centers for Disease ******* estimates that the cost of domestic violence in 2003 was more than $8.3 billion. This cost includes medical care, mental health services, and lost productivity.

Every 9 seconds a woman is physically abused by her husband.

 95% of assaults on spouses or ex-spouses are committed by men against women.

 30% of women presenting with injuries to the emergency department had injuries caused by battering.

From 7% to 26% of pregnant women are abused.

Pregnancy is a risk factor. Several studies indicate a range of incidence from 17% to 26% of pregnant women

But we have to take into consideration that all of these figures are in only one country and the numbers around the world would be terrifying.

3. World figures

Around the world there is a high prevalence rate of homosexual men and women as the following:

Number of homosexuals in Australia is 1.2% of adults identify as homosexual or lesbian.

In Canada .3% of men and 0.7% of women considered themselves homosexual.

In United Kingdom one adult in 100 is a homosexual, according to new figures.

Statistics for Sweden show 0.55% of couples are same-*** and in Norway 0.68%.

Scientists and physicians confirm that this kind of relations is not fruitful and lasts only for no more than 3 years.

Also the problem is not limited only for numbers of homosexual but extends to its consequences as AIDS is a main cause by this forbidden kind of relationship.

4. Adultery and AIDS

In a report published by CNN, researchers announced that AIDS rate of incidence is increasing day after day. Despite the billions being paid, they failed to find an effective treatment for this disease until now. The Center for Disease ******* and prevention CDC said that there are more infections of Human Immunodeficiency Viruses (HIV) between Americans with rates higher than what used to be thought. Keeve Vinton, Manger of AIDS Dept. at the center, had pointed out that about 56 thousand new cases were recorded last year, which means 40% increase over previous estimations.

The center stated that there is likely a possibility of recording 40 thousand new cases annually; however, estimates depended on limited data and less precise means.

In Africa there are 25 million person infected by AIDS from total of 40 million in the entire world. Infection spreads in Africa through sexual relations between man and woman.

When we read these figures we should remember the holy verse as Allah Almighty order believers to be away from unlawful relations by saying: (Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.)[Sûrat An-Nûr- The Light-verse30].

5. Raping and marriage

Non-marriage is considered to be the main reason behind the phenomenon of Raping as the most recent figures about raping in one country are as following:

• 1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed rape; 2.8% attempted rape).

• 17.7 million American women have been victims of attempted or completed rape.

• 9 of every 10 rape victims were female in 2003.

• While about 80% of all victims are white, minorities are somewhat more likely to be attacked.

Also in many western counties there a special phone line to enable raped women and girls to declare about a rape accident as there are many people who don’t inform the official authorities about what happen to them. There are many clinics to treat the psychological effects of rape and there are many curriculums in universities explaining ways of treating the dangerous psychological effects of rape.

A study in 2005 had confirmed that most of rape accidents are caused by relatives and friends of the raped woman (National Crime Victimization Survey, 2005) and most of these accidents happen in the house of a friend or relative.

So that people who are away from their God and His acts are living in hardship in the world and in hereafter they will face a harmful torture because of adultery and being away from beliefs and instructions of Allah Almighty. So that in hereafter guilty men and women will lose their sight and they will be blind, Allah says But whosoever turns away from My Reminder (i.e. neither believes in this Qur'an nor acts on its teachings.) verily, for him is a life of hardship, and we shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection* He will say: "O my Lord! Why have you raised me up blind, while I had sight (before)* (Allah) will say: "Like this: Our signs came unto you, but you disregarded them (i.e. you left them, did not think deeply in them, and you turned away from them), and so this Day, you will be neglected (in the Hell-fire, away from Allah’s Mercy)* And thus do We requite him who transgresses beyond bounds [i.e. commits the great sins and disobeys his Lord (Allah) and believes not in His Messengers, and His revealed Books, like this Qur’an], and believes not in the proofs of his Lord; and the torment of the Hereafter is far more severe and more lasting) (Sûrat Taha - verse 124-127).

It is worth mentioning that consequences of raping are destructive not only on who has been raped but on the entire community.

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